We know that none of us are perfect, so do we sometimes forget that when someone hurts us? It is very easy to blame, get angry, or get angry when these things happen. But who really suffers in this situation? We must not underestimate the importance of forgiveness and the power that is.
You can think of some events in your life when you are angry or upset, we all have them. Strange that you still feel that is happening to you right now.
That feeling is stored in your subconscious and when you think about it, they will immediately put you back there and you will always feel negative emotions! Think about how strong those feelings are – negative.
Why should I forgive?
Instead of asking why you should forgive, perhaps you should ask why you should not? It may help you to see the situation differently, although it may not make you think differently. That is, if you look at something from a different perspective, you can see it in a whole new way.
Before I go any further, I think it is important to acknowledge that it is understandable why it is almost unforgivable depending on how badly you are hurt.
Why would someone want to forgive someone who has been hurt so badly or worse? That being said, some people do, and often do, to control – control the pain and rejection that consumes them.
Unforgiveness can be dangerous:
Our thoughts are strong and by not forgiving anyone for what they have done, nurture negative thoughts that are bad for you. With these ideas in mind, you can think negatively about things.
When negative thoughts develop in you, they will become part of you. It can be part of everything you approach, insights into your life, and even your personality.
If that happens, you allow yourself to be influenced by the actions of others, and not in a good way. Having a negative outlook on life brings you more negative thoughts because your thoughts will attract them to you. This is how the Law of Attraction works.
Psychologist Everett L. Worthington Jr. spent his career studying forgiveness and writing more than 30 books on the subject. He strongly believes in the importance of forgiveness and helps develop REACH practice methods, one of the most widely studied methods of forgiving forgiveness.
Sorry, but note:
It should not be confused because forgiveness does not mean you should forget. After all, if someone hurts you, you are unlikely to forget it. But forgiveness is different.
Forgiveness does not apply to your offender. But it is about you In other words, it is not in yourself to cultivate your pain and anger because you can be harmed. Other people will make you feel those emotions. But you are not, they control you.
Forgiveness does not release a person, it does release negative emotions generated by the action. When you do, you control the effect of the disease on you. Do not forget your injustices or reasons. But admit it happened and decide to move on.
Think of it this way: If you force the pain, the other person may not be affected, but you. You put yourself in jail where there is no chance of being released if you do not. It’s almost like wasting time with people who hurt you. One should not forget the pain that occurred. But don’t be a prisoner by doing your own thing.
The importance of forgiving yourself:
What if the board turns around and you hurt someone one way or the other? Do you want to forgive? Of course, you want to, you might not expect. But you probably like it. Such thinking gives a different light to forgiveness.
When you hurt someone thinking you are sorry for it, you must forgive yourself or you will feel guilty. This will make you heavier and increase the feeling of inadequacy. Dealing with guilt can be very difficult. But it can be done
It is not a matter of pleasure, you must admit that you made a mistake and did your best to put it right. This will erase the guilt and allow you to learn an important lesson.
Forgiving yourself can be as difficult as others because it can make you feel worthless and you believe you do not deserve it. We all make mistakes or regret that we did something, human nature and you are no different.
Agree to forgive yourself:
No matter how much anger you feel, whether because of yourself or others, your anger should be forgiven. I’m sure you’ve heard people say they can’t be forgiven. But that is not really the case. When they say “I can’t,” what they really mean is “I agree” or “I don’t want to”. It can be painful. But it is true
If you do not forgive, you show that you consider yourself a victim, and you blame the feelings you feel from the outside – other people. You are the one who feels what you feel and has the power to change them. Seriously But the truth is I am not saying that pain or illness will go away. But it is yours, even if someone else did.
It’s like forgiving yourself for something. You blame yourself for feeling bad. But you have the power to change that. Accept responsibility for what you do, learn from it, and move on. If you take it with you and defeat yourself, things will not change, but they will make you worse and none of them will benefit.
Understand that what happened in the past is always there. But you don’t have to be there. You are in the present, listening and now you must pay attention to it because that is where your thoughts shape your future. This is the importance of forgiveness and why you should consider accepting it.